Two pivotal popular culture debuts modified this mixed-race millennial. The primary was in 1990, when a fresh-faced Mariah Carey sang “Imaginative and prescient of Love” on “MTV Unplugged.” And the second got here in a newspaper advert a few brand-new present that includes twins separated at start: “Sister, Sister.”
As soon as “twin-damonium” hit ABC, I used to be stirring in my Blossom hat, flannel button-down, and saggy denims. Tamera and Tia Mowry had been bubbly brown women with a success TV present crammed with hijinks and coronary heart — and so they had curls like me! Since then, I’ve felt a bond with the 2, as their careers took them from “Sister, Sister” to “Twitches,” Tia Mowry-Hardrict to “The Sport,” and Tamera Mowry-Housley to an Emmy-winning activate “The Actual.”
And it is with that very same familiarity that I devoured Mowry-Housley’s new memoir, “You Ought to Sit Down For This: A Memoir About Life, Wine, and Cookies.” In a approach solely she will be able to, Mowry-Housley invitations readers alongside for a experience by her life, from her early days in magnificence pageants, “Sister, Sister” fame, and falling in like to each hallmark in her profession. Speaking with Mowry-Housley seems like finishing my millennial Mount Olympus of interview topics (in any case, I did interview Mowry-Hardrict in years previous).
As you learn “You Ought to Sit Down For This,” odds are you will attain for one thing: a glass of Prosecco, some mint Milanos, and even your cellphone, to textual content Tamera-isms in your group chat. And that acquainted reflex was Mowry-Housley’s objective all alongside. “I wished individuals to really feel like they had been proper there with me, and it was essential that you just acquired a way of my character,” Mowry-Housley tells POPSUGAR. “You could possibly hear my voice.”
Mowry-Housley’s bubbly spirit permeates her complete story, whether or not she walks you thru the second the “Sister, Sister” deal was signed otherwise you go on one horrible date after one other together with her. There’s at all times one thing to be taught, regardless of how robust — and even candy — the lesson could be.
After all, we needed to discuss rising up curly. Though Mowry-Hardrict and Mowry-Housley grew to become curly-girl icons again within the ’90s, they had been simply attempting to remain true to their identities. “Once we did ‘Sister, Sister,’ we had been simply being ourselves,” Mowry-Housley shares. “It by no means crossed my thoughts to straighten my hair till — that is what’s attention-grabbing — till I acquired older. As a result of women with curly hair weren’t seen as horny. However there’s been a curly-hair motion for a while, which I am so grateful as a result of we had been in that for a really very long time.”
It is simple to keep in mind that period when all of my buddies had been getting blowouts each Sunday or begging their mother and father for relaxers. I wished to appear to be my different teen icon, Aaliyah, which meant a number of trial and error with a blow dryer. And though she was already a megastar, Mowry-Housley additionally felt that stress. Star or not, modern strands meant sexiness and class on the finish of that decade and into the early aughts.
“Your hair wasn’t seen as skilled. It was seen as undone. It was seen as cute, not horny, not grown,” Mowry-Housley says. “That’s the reason why we straightened our hair close to the top of the sequence, as a result of we wished to be seen as horny grown ladies.”
However at some point, she had sufficient and underwent the large chop. “I will always remember this,” she begins. “I did an audition, and fairly frankly, I mentioned, ‘I’m so bored with being married to the salon.’ What I meant by ‘married to the salon’ is I felt like each two weeks I needed to go for my hair. After which the increasingly more I went, the extra my curls had been broken.”
She shares that when she went pure, casting administrators would say they “simply could not get previous” her hair in auditions the place she wore it curly. “What the hell does that imply, you could not ‘get previous’ my hair? Like my hair was a distraction? My hair is who I’m,” Mowry-Housley says. “However identical to once I discuss concerning the naysayers within the guide, I wasn’t going to allow them to outline me. I used to be going to stroll in my reality and dwell authentically, and I chopped off all my hair as a result of my hair was broken. After which I began this regrowth, and never solely did my hair regrow, however I did.”
Standing in her reality essentially grounds “You Ought to Sit Down For This.” And a part of that reality is Mowry-Housley proudly owning her “goody two footwear” demeanor. It is one other high quality this author can closely relate to — if you’re Black and a goody two footwear, criticism is at all times proper across the nook. We discuss concerning the second within the memoir when a teen Mowry-Housley and Mowry-Hardrict depart their New York Metropolis lodge with no safety guards and find yourself in a mob of followers. “There are simply these rule followers in life. I am one in all them,” Mowry-Housley says. “And I’ve these moments the place I simply do not wish to comply with the foundations. As a result of I am such a rule follower, I simply allowed myself to do it. I simply wished to see. And it was a lesson realized.”
And though Mowry-Housley serves her memoir with a wholesome dose of sweetness — she actually urges readers to devour pages and cookies on the similar time — she talks extensively about psychological toughness, particularly placing on “psychological boxing gloves” throughout her time on “The Actual.” She reveals that good women usually are not doormats; they’re to not be messed with.
“I’ve realized boundaries,” Mowry-Housley shares. “You possibly can set psychological boundaries as nicely. I needed to be taught to say, truly being form and loving is being sensible and setting boundaries. My psychological gloves usually are not going to let somebody who does not know me, who has no intention of being form, their predominant motive is simply to be shady. I am not going to let that have an effect on me anymore. I am not going to let that outline me.”
“My psychological gloves usually are not going to let somebody who does not know me, who has no intention of being form, their predominant motive is simply to be shady. I am not going to let that have an effect on me anymore. I am not going to let that outline me.”
And Mowry-Housley attributes a lot of that progress to her time on the present. “I used to be not ready for individuals taking one thing that you’ve got mentioned that you just didn’t imply in any respect and twisting it, turning it round, after which making assumptions based mostly on that, then taking issues out of context,” she shares. “Who does that?”
At the moment, Mowry-Housley has two Hallmark films slated to launch through the holidays — “Girlfriendship” and “Inventing the Christmas Prince” — which carry nostalgia and her shiny spirit to the small display. However can we anticipate to see Mowry-Housley on one other discuss present? “It needs to be particular,” Mowry-Housley says. “It needs to be uplifting. It needs to be highly effective in the way in which that we’re actually inspiring, serving to individuals’s lives.” This lifelong Mowry-Housley fan is manifesting a chat present for her. “Who is aware of?” Mowry-Housley tells POPSUGAR. “Possibly with my sister.”
As a family identify for over 30 years, Mowry-Housley’s memoir turns the dial to her story with zero static, and he or she’s the only narrator. Readers will be taught that a lot that they learn about Mowry-Housley is her most genuine self, and so they’ll witness the punch and drive that made her so successful. And she or he locations a lot of that success on her religion and 4 highly effective letters: hope. “I at all times say, ‘Shine shiny like a diamond.’ To develop into a diamond, you must be below stress,” Mowry-Housley says. “It’s important to get by all of that stress. So you must get by the tunnel. It’s important to undergo the mess. However there’s hope. There’s hope on the opposite facet. You simply acquired to get to the opposite facet.”
“You Ought to Sit Down For This: A Memoir About Life, Wine, and Cookies” grew to become obtainable on Oct. 4.